There’s a lot of talk about being ‘real’ and ‘getting real’ that gets
thrown around nowadays, when in fact, everyone, myself included, has so
much trouble accepting who they are and what they look like. In my
personal experience, I’ve found that it’s always easier to believe an
insult over a compliment. For instance, In 2013, I was at a family
function and a cousin of mine caught up with me in the buffet line and
just as I was about to serve myself, only half jokingly said, “Careful,
don’t serve too much, you’re already getting really fat.” I brushed it
off obviously, but it wasn’t until that point (I was happy and healthy
and had everything going in life) that I became conscious of the weight I
had put on. Cut to a year later, and I was 46 kilos (14 kilos lighter)
and the compliments started pouring in. But here’s the thing, I wasn’t
happy. I lost the weight because of stress and the sudden pressure of
achieving this gold standard of what one is supposed to look like didn’t
help matters at all.
I’m telling you all of this as a backdrop to explain why, when I came
across Dove’s new campaign, #RealBeauty, it really struck a chord. For
over 50 years, Dove has been championing real women and focusing on real
beauty all over the world. 2016 is India’s year. They conducted a year
long survey after talking to 800 women on women’s feelings of self
esteem, on beauty and how their opinions changed over time.
Some of the findings of the Truth About Beauty 2015 survey were as follows:
I feel very strongly that people respond to people and hearing some of these women’s stories really spoke to me as I know they will speak to you.
Mary Ann, 23, Kolkata
Mary Ann
I’ve always thought that a person who is beautiful is a person who is aware of themselves.
Dr. Gita Prakash, 61, New Delhi
Dr. Gita Prakash
As we grow older, we become beautiful in a different way. Being a mum makes you all the more beautiful. And I should know, as a grandmother who relishes in her beauty!
Ektha, 24, Bengaluru
Ektha
If I turn back and notice you for the second time, I consider you as beautiful. Just the fact that your face stands out in a crowd…that for me is beautiful.Gives you the tingles right? That’s what I meant about people getting people, and coming together with each of their stories. Share your thoughts with us in the comment below!
This post is in partnership with Dove.